💭 Dutiful children do not just obey the orders of their parents. They understand that what saddens their parents must be avoided whenever possible, even if the parents hide the sadness, or permit things with a heavy heart. (Inspired by Ibn ‘Ashur) 💭 Beware of volunteering information to people which can later be weaponized against you. Here, Ya‘qub (‘alayhis-salam) shared with them his fear that a wolf would eat Yusuf (such an unlikely event), and so they capitalized on that by later using it as their explanation. Naive newlyweds often share the most shameful moments of their past to each other, all in the spirit of trust and transparency. But soon enough, they regret it upon real

Unlike his sons (12:9), Yaqub (as) thoughts are straight. He is in control of his speech. He (as) recognizes his emotion, acknowledges that it's a fear-based emotion and doesn't blame any other than an animal, whose nature is to do the thing that Yaqub (as) is afraid of. Yaqub (as) is similar to his father Adem (as), who did not blame others for his thoughts and feelings.

سورہ یوسف ہمیں سکھاتی ہے کہ اپنی عدم تحفظات اور خدشات ہر کسی کے ساتھ شیئر نہ کریں۔ جب یعقوب (علیہ السلام) نے اپنے بیٹوں سے کہا کہ مجھے ڈر ہے کہ کہیں اسے بھیڑیا نہ کھا جائے، تو انہوں نے اسی خوف کو ان کے خلاف استعمال کیا۔ یہ ہمیں سکھاتا ہے کہ ضروری نہیں کہ ہر خوف یا عدم تحفظ کو دوسروں کے سامنے ظاہر کیا جائے، کیونکہ حتیٰ کہ قریبی لوگ بھی کبھی کبھار اسے غلط سمجھ سکتے ہیں یا اسے آپ کے خلاف استعمال کر سکتے ہیں۔ کچھ معاملات میں دانشمندی اسی میں ہے کہ ان کو پوشیدہ رکھا جائے۔

Surah Yusuf taught me to not share the thing that scares me the most with everybody, as they can use this against you. When the father said to them: 'I'm afraid the wolf will eat him,' they used this fear against him. I've seen sisters share what they are most ashamed of from their past in the beginning of a marriage, and then that thing be used against them when things change in the marriage. People will use your secrets against you, so some things are best kept to yourself.