Only those who lived through traumatic marriages or the agony of loosing a child, truly understand not just how agonizingly painful this period is, but how disgrounding it is too. For many, it is a time where we will desperately plea for Allah's help, but at the same time emotionally and physically we can become so drained that we can loose our true spiritual connection with Allah.

I have read this du'a for a joyous household many times but this morning it struck me: Why does Allah direct us to ask for spouses and children who will give us joy before He mentions make us leaders of those who have piety? You would think the latter is more important, right?

Maybe it is because most of us hum

Allah takes care of His righteous servants. Yet, Allah's Care extends not just the servant himself/herself, but also ALL their affairs and those who around them. When Allah blesses the righteous, the blessings echo in the spaces and people around us too. Two orphans had wealth being guarded by Allah Himself for them because their deceased father was righteous. Allah was taking care of the affairs of this righteous father even after he had left this world through preserving the father's children. Preservation of the man's affairs extended to his offspring, his legacy. And would Allah take care of His righteous servant except in the most beautiful and excellent of ways? No, of course no

‘Uqbah b. ‘Âmir narrates: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: 'Do not hate girls, for they are the precious sources of joy.' [Sound: Narrated by Ahmad (17373), and at-Tabarâni in al-Kabeer (17/310)]

An-Nu‘mân b. Basheer narrates: I heard ‘Umar b. al-Khattâb say when he was asked about the verse: And when baby girls, buried alive, are asked [81:8] 'Qays b. ‘Âsim came to the Messenger of Allah (saws) and said: ‘I buried eight of my infant daughters alive in the Time of Ignorance.’ He said: ‘For each of them, free one slave.’ I said: ‘But I own camels.’ He said: ‘Then for each of them give offer one sacrificial camel.’' [Sound: Narrated by al-Bazzâr in his Musnad (238), and at-Tabarâni in al-Kabeer (18/337) in this wording]

Al-Ash‘ath b. Qays narrates: A son was born to me, and I received news of it while I was with the Prophet (saws). I said: 'I would rather have, instead of him, a large bowl of bread or meat for you!' The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: 'If you say that, then they will be a source of stinginess, cowardice, and grief. They are truly the fruit of our hearts, and the apple of our eyes.' [Authentic: Narrated by al-Hâkim (4/239)]

Buraydah b. al-Husayyib narrates: The Messenger of Allah (saws) was delivering a sermon to us when al-Hasan and al-Husayn came stumbling dressed in red shirts. He descended and took them, then ascended the pulpit with them. Then he said: 'Allah has spoken the truth: Your wealth and your children are but a trial [64:15] 'I saw these two and did not hold back.' Then he continued with the sermon. [Sound: Narrated by Abu Dawud (1109), and at-Tirmidhi (3774) who deemed it Hasan, and an-Nasâ’i (1413), and Ibn Mâjah (3600)]

‘Ubâdah b. as-Sâmit narrates: The Messenger of Allah (saws) took an oath from us just as he did from the women: to not associate anything as a partner with Allah; to not steal; to not fornicate; to not kill our children; and to not incite dissension among one another. [He said]: 'Whoever fulfills it among has his reward with Allah. Whoever among you commits a crime and is penalized for it, then it is his expiation, and whomever Allah conceals, then his matter is up to Allah; if He wills, He will punish him, and if He wills, he will forgive him.' [Authentic: Narrated by Muslim (1809:43)]

Abu Hurayrah narrates: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: 'Whoever is slowed down by his actions will not be advanced by his lineage.' [Authentic: Narrated by Muslim (2699)]

Thâbit b. al-Hârith al-Ansâri narrates: The Jews used to say when a young child of theirs died that he was a saint. This reached the Prophet (saws), and he said: 'The Jews have lied. There is no soul that Allah creates in the belly of its mother except that it is already doomed or prosperous.' Allah, the Exalted, then sent this ayah down about that: He knew well what would become of you as He created you from the earth and while you were ˹still˺ fetuses in the wombs of your mothers. So do not ˹falsely˺ elevate yourselves. He knows best who is ˹truly˺ righteous. [53:32] [Sound: Narrated by at-Tabarâni in al-Kabeer (2/75), and al-Wâhidi in Asbâb an-Nuzool (p 422)]

Abu Hurayrah narrates: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: 'Allah, Mighty and Majestic, will certainly elevate the rank of a righteous servant in Paradise. He will ask: ‘O Lord, how did I attain this?’ He will say: ‘Through your child seeking forgiveness for you.’' In another wording: 'Through your child’s prayer for you.' [Sound: Narrated by Ibn Mâjah (3660), and Ahmad (10610), and al-Bazzâr (9024)]