{"postId":14419,"post":{"id":14419,"body":"📌Did I not create you in pairs? - An-Naba: 8 Many ask, if there were only women and no men in the world, wouldn't the world have a lot of peace? Or, if God created man as a sexless animal, where everyone could give birth on their own, just as other animals could, what would be the problem? At that time, more than half of the human race would never have committed crimes like conflict between men and women, trouble in the family, unrest, obscenity, adultery, rape, etc.? Some special people also ask the question, can't there be a homosexual couple in pairs? There has been a lot of research on whether men and women are better off in any way than the marital relationship, and the consequences of homosexuality. Here are some of them. First of all, in Surah Room, Allah Almighty tells us what is the great purpose behind creating the opposite sex: One of His signs is that He created your companions from among you, so that you may have peace with them, and He has shown love and kindness to one another within you. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. —R-Room 30:21 Men and women are created so that they can find peace in each other. Many husbands know what this experience is like. Fatigue of the whole day, while lying restlessly in the midst of hundreds of worries, when the wife comes near and gently holds her hand, sits down a little, what a strange thing happens - the restlessness suddenly subsides. The worries disappear for a while and the mind becomes calm. Body fatigue should be reduced. But the wife did not say or do anything. A little companionship, a little touch is enough to bring peace to a hundred problems of the world by forgetting the husband for a while. The same feeling is with wives. When they are in a state of mental turmoil, unable to win the hearts and minds of thousands of houseworkers, they are lost and disoriented, then the husband's hand on his head, a deep embrace of love, in a moment forgets everything and plunges his wife into a strange world of peace. —A study of 404 adults who hugged each other for 14 days on a regular basis found that there was a significant reduction in heartburn and quarrels. Not only that, on the day when there was a quarrel or quarrel between them, those who hugged each other in the end, the amount of problems later became more apparent than the others. The conclusion of this study is that if husband and wife hug each other regularly, not only will there be less quarrels and quarrels between them, but even if something like this happens, hugging will greatly reduce its harmful effects and the possibility of further complication. [19] There are complex scientific reasons behind these. Allah Almighty did not say that there are great signs in this for the thinkers. Numerous studies have shown that when we embrace each other deeply, the pressure exerted on the chest-abdomen and the pressure exerted on certain nerves in the body by gently moving up and down with the hands on the back and arms, signals certain signals to our brain. Which secretes oxytocin from the brain. This oxytocin is released into the body to release certain hormones, which reduce stress, fatigue, control inflammation in the body, reduce high blood pressure, and increase immunity. [21] [24] Studies have shown that patients who are routinely held and embraced with tenderness recover faster than other patients, and that complications of the same disease are reduced on average. Couples who regularly hug and caress each other, the amount of complex problems between them is significantly reduced, the recurrence of problems is reduced and they are both relatively better physically and mentally. [22] Embrace plays a key role in reducing hypertension, especially in women, and studies conducted separately have found excellent results. [20] [23] Over the last fifty years, many studies have shown that marriage plays a huge role in the mental well-being of adult men and women. Statistics show that men and women hospitalized with a variety of complex mental health problems, including depression and depression, are significantly less likely to be married than men and women. Special research has also shown that unmarried relationships, such as dating, livetogether, are not at all as beneficial as married relationships. Even in Western countries where livetogether has become acceptable, marriage plays a role in the mental well-being of men and women. Again, until a few centuries ago, there was an idea that marriage only benefits men, but also women. This idea was later proved wrong. As a result of marriage, both men and women benefit almost equally. [15] [16] [17] [18] Allah Almighty has created a special kind of love and kindness in husband and wife. If one maintains family ties according to the rules of Islam as much as possible, then it is hoped that Allah Almighty will bring lasting peace between the couple and they will be able to pass the trials of the world together. However, there is no guarantee that the family will be happy if both husband and wife are very God-fearing. The Companions also had marital problems, which led to divorce. Just keep in mind that the purpose of creating the opposite sex is so that they can find peace with each other. Lasting peace depends on much more. Although many claim that in this verse ازواج ازواز means to be married, it is not obligatory. In Arabic, an unmarried couple is also called azwaz. So getting married is not a condition for peace. Those who think so will be asked to look at the other verses of the Qur'an, which clearly mention the awaaz (wife) and the maids, and at the same time look at the following figures. 📌Married vs. extramarital affair— Multiple studies in Western and African countries have found that the rate of physical violence in married families is significantly lower than in dating and livetogether families. For example, unmarried women who are dating and livetogether suffer 2.1 times more physical injuries than married women, mainly in the head, neck and face. However, the educational qualifications of those unmarried women are higher than those of married women. The number of unmarried women admitted to the hospital with multiple injuries is twice as high as the number of married women and almost twice as many as the number of married women coming to the hospital after being attacked by multiple male partners. These figures come from research on women who have been hospitalized for five years. [10] Another study found that the number of extramarital affairs in the United States has skyrocketed, with one-year relationships dating and living together not making much of a difference in violence, but between five years and more. At a significant rate from. Which means it's about to be the most delusional time of the year, as well as the most delusional. [11] 📌Why are homosexuals happy then? The Qur'an says that human beings are created in pairs so that they may find peace with one another. So, why do homosexuals find peace in each other even after being of the same sex and feel love, kindness towards each other? Why are gay relationships seen to be so long lasting and happy? A large-scale study found that 6% of gay couples break up in less than three years. Only 12% of couples survive for five years or more. Homosexual relationships last a long time — this is a widely circulated misinformation. [6, p. 314] Not only that, 63% of the gay couples who took part in the study committed adultery with more than 50 other men outside of their partner. Out of 43% of homosexual partners, there were more than 500 males. 26% of homosexuals were in the thousands. [6, p. 308] This is the 1978 statistics from before the outbreak of the AIDS epidemic, taken from San Francisco, a haven for gay rights and freedoms. The figures, later published in the American Journal of Sexuality Research in 1996, [6] and in Janra, one of the most popular gay magazines, are even more grim. [7] Homosexuality is on the rise. They are now organizing, forming organizations, publishing special TV channels, movies, magazines for themselves and doing filth in front of everyone's eyes. According to a study by the American Psychiatric Association, 63% of psychologists report that homosexuals are relatively unhappy in some respects. Eighty percent of psychologists believe that the main cause of homosexual mental problems is not environmental stress or social problems, which are widely publicized by homosexuals. Rather the main reason is the conflict between them. [2] Two gay researchers studied 156 long-term gay couples and found that none of them, who had been in a relationship for five years, were faithful to each other. They have also committed adultery with many of their peers. [3] One of the arguments of lesbian women is that since women understand each other more, the pairing between women is more lasting and there is less quarrel. It is safer for a woman to live with another man than with a man. But research says the opposite. One statistic shows that 90% of lesbians have been verbally abused by their partners and 31% of lesbians have been subjected to physical violence by their partners. [10] Not only that, the amount of physical violence in a gay-male couple is twice that of a male-female couple. [8] If two men live under the same roof for a long time, they will fight more this is not to be taken lightly. A national-level statistic in the United States shows that 75% of lesbians have received psychiatric treatment for long-term depression. [4] Even gay men are six times more likely to attempt suicide. [1] Also 25% to 33% of gay men and women are addicted to alcohol. [5] Lesbians are three times more likely than normal women to be addicted to alcohol and suffer from a variety of suicidal behaviors. [12] The average life expectancy of a gay and bisexual man is 8-20 years shorter than that of a normal man. [13] Another shocking fact is that 29% of adult children of gay parents are sexually abused by their parents. This means that children in one out of every four families are being sexually abused by their gay parents. Whereas, in the family of normal male and female parents, the rate of sexual abuse of children is 0.6%. According to this calculation, all children growing up with a homosexual parent are fifty times more likely to be incestuous! [13] This one reason should have been enough to declare homosexuality strictly suppressed and legally prohibited. But that did not happen. On the contrary, the number of mentally deformed teenagers and adolescents is increasing at an alarming rate by giving more legitimacy to homosexuality. There is no limit to the work demands of homosexuals. Statistics clearly show that they are not faithful to their partner. There is no peace or stability in them. There is no limit to the needs of their ever-new partner. They are so addicted to sex that they do not even give up their children. They are a terrible threat to mankind. They cannot control their own bestiality and turn future generations into beasts. If the number of them exceeds a certain number, then the population growth will turn in the opposite direction and the population will decrease and at some point mankind will become extinct. 📌References— [1] Alan P. Bell and Martin S. Weinberg, “Homosexualities: A Study of Diversity Among Men and Women”, (New York, Simon and Shuster, 1978) [2] Harold I. Lief, Sexual Survey Number 4: Current Thinking on Homosexuality, Medical Aspects of Human Sexuality 2 (1977), pp.110- 111. [3] D McWhirter and A Mattison, “The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop, (Englewood Cliffs, Prentice-Hall). [4] J. Bradford et al., “National Lesbian Health Care Survey: Implications for Mental Health Care,” Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 62 (1994): 239, cited in Health Implications Associated with Homosexuality, p. 81. [5] Robert J. Kus, “Alcoholics Anonymous and Gay American Men”, Journal of Homosexuality, Volume 14, No.2 (1987), p.254 [6] Paul Van de Ven et al., “A Comparative Demographic and Sexual Profile of Older Homosexually Active Men,” Journal of Sex Research 34 (1997): 354. [7] Genre (October 1996), quoted in “Survey Finds 40 percent of Gay Men Have Had More Than 40 Sex Partners,” Lambda Report, January 1998, p. 20. [8] Lettie L. Lockhart et al., “Letting out the Secret: Violence in Lesbian Relationships,” Journal of Interpersonal Violence 9 (1994): 469-492 [9] Gwat Yong Lie and Sabrina Gentlewarrier, “Intimate Violence in Lesbian Relationships: Discussion of Survey Findings and Practice Implications,” Journal of Social Service Research 15 (1991): 41-59. [10] Wong, J. Y., Choi, A. W., Fong, D. Y., Choi, E. P., Wong, J. K., So, F. L., … Kam, C. W. (2016). A comparison of intimate partner violence and associated physical injuries between cohabitating and married women: a 5-year medical chart review. 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