Assamualaykum I am the eldest among four siblings — three brothers and one sister — and Alhamdulillah, I have learned to pray salah on my own, reflecting on every ayah as a reminder and a warning. My challenge is with my younger brother, who is 17, as I struggle to encourage him to pray, even just on Fridays or at Fajr, while I am 21 and trying to guide him with patience. We grew up in a loud family without proper discipline, where beating was the only way to enforce obedience, but I have sworn that this cycle ends with me. I worry deeply because death can come at any moment, and I want to protect myself and my family from neglecting salah. This responsibility weighs on me, but I know guidance must come with gentleness and wisdom
I turn to Allah ﷻ in dua, asking for His guidance and mercy, and I hold onto the ayah in Surah Taha (20:132): This ayah reminds me to stay patient, consistent, and hopeful that Allah will guide us all. It teaches me that provision and success come only from Him, and my role is to remain steadfast in encouraging prayer. I pray that my brother and family will be guided to salah, and that I will continue to lead by example with sincerity. Through patience, dua, and reflection, I hope to build a better path for myself and those I love.
Share some duas in the comments that worked for you, and Inshallah Allah guide us all.
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I can relate to your post so much. I learnt to pray by going onto the internet and noting down the salah. My siblings kept that book and it helped them too.
I would simply keep praying and make your character gentle and kind this will have an impact upon your siblings. Encourage them to start small. May Allah bless you and guide your family Ameen.