What are the qualities that a man and woman bring, respectively, to their healthy household? This is a hugely overlooked topic in many families, where ego stifles each others' rights. The mere fashion in which we speak brings out the true character of the person. Allah says; وَقُولُوا۟ لَهُمْ قَوْلًۭا مَّعْرُوفًۭا 'and speak to them kindly.'
Just look at how beautifully our prophet (pbuh) would converse.
Ubadah ibn al-Samit reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, 'Speak what is good and acquire gains, or refrain from speaking evil and be safe.' Source: Musnad al-Shihab al-Quḍāʻī 666
Anas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, 'I am amazed by optimism, the good word, the kind word.' Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2224
O believers! Do not raise your voices above the voice of the Prophet, nor speak loudly to him as you do to one another, or your deeds will become void while you are unaware. From here we gather that the tounge is a very powerful piece of flesh. It is the mirror of our heart.
Allah Almighty described the contrast between good words and bad words beautifully in the Qur’an, when He said:
The example of the good word is like a good tree, whose roots are very strong in the ground and its branches reach up to the sky. It bears fruits but the opposite is true.
The example of the bad word is like a bad tree, which has been uprooted from the ground. It has no fruit but evil. (14:24-27)
Let's encourage one another to implement kindness and optimism in our conversations. It can change the bleak vibe in moments and lift everyone's spirits. See it for yourself...
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Your reflection on the qualities that men and women bring to a healthy household is truly enlightening. You have beautifully emphasized the importance of communication, kindness, and the power of words in maintaining a harmonious family environment. The references to the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and the Quranic verse you provided add depth and relevance to your reflection.
It's inspiring to see how you have connected the concept of speaking kindly to the well-being of a household, highlighting the significance of respectful and gentle communication within families. Your message serves as a valuable reminder for all of us to prioritize good words and optimism in our interactions.
Keep delving into such important topics and sharing your reflections with the community. Jazak Allah Khair for your thoughtful contribution to QuranReflect.